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Quote of the Week

“A living being is tender and flexible;

a corpse is hard and stiff.

It is the same with everything—leaves and grasses are tender and delicate, but when they die they become rigid and dry.

Those who are hard and inflexible belong to death’s domain; but the gentle and flexible belong to life.”

― Lao Tzu, Tao Te Ching 🌼

This Week's "Subconscious Success" Tip

Today let's explore one more concept from quantum physics together. In the last couple of weeks, I shared with you about the Quantum Zeno Effect and also about quantum entanglement and how these two concepts can apply to your inner growth journey.

Today, let's chat a little about the quantum concept of superposition:

💡 What it is: Until a quantum particle is measured, it exists in multiple possible states at once. It’s not either/or—it’s both/and.

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💫 How this might apply to you: You also exist in multiple states at once. Consider that your identity is not fixed to "this" or "that", and also, that it's possible to have multiple emotions and thoughts at once. Realizing these various aspects of our emotional state can make it easier to transform our state, as well.

A dear friend with chronic health challenges recently shared something with me that really caused me to pause and reflect. She said what's gotten her through incredibly hard times is her ability to be in pain and hold an immense level of gratitude at the same time.

Not surprisingly, this ability to experience multiple emotional states and also perspectives at once is what mental health practitioners have observed in the most resilient people and those who experience more ongoing wellbeing.

How to Apply This Tip

So many things to explore here, but today I'll give you 2 ways.

1) "Quickie" way - Think of a situation that's been contributing to some sense of stress, grief, worry, anger, etc. Ask yourself these curious questions:

What's everything I'm not noticing that's not that?

If I zoom out and look at this from a big picture point of view, what do I notice?

What would someone who I deeply respect point out right now to give me a different perspective?

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2) Not so quick way, but incredibly rewarding over time:

Invest in inner work that welcomes in the various parts/aspects of you and integrates them so that you have a deeper sense of wholeness and being able to hold multiple emotions/perspectives at once, without one dominating the other.

For example, let's say you currently get triggered when someone judges you for your choices or preferences.

While you could technically choose to respond differently, you probably won't because there's an automatic subconscious program running that kicks off as soon as the judgement occurs.

So currently, emotional response takes over your experience, and you're not really able to feel or think other things until some time has passed. The amount of time varies by person. Like for example, I used to ruminate in what someone said to me for days sometimes.

So, if you work with this aspect of yourself through a process like Core Transformation, next time, you'll likely have a different experience.

The person will do the judgy thing, and then you can experience more of an intentional response back, rather than an automatic reaction. You can recognize that they're being an a-hole and also hold other emotions and thoughts at the same time to give you a richer experience.

Why it works (the short version)

Being aware that you're able to experience many states at once gives you the ability to be flexible and have a rich experience of life.

Sometimes the ability to stay resilient and flexible is one of the only things that helps us through life transitions and ups and downs.

The thing is, when one emotion or one thought is very strong, it seems to almost "overpower" everything else. That's because at some point, we got the idea that things need to be a certain way or we need to be (or not be) a certain way.

For example, why are most people triggered when they're being judged? For me, I automatically think of my parents and family as a young kid...I get flashes of memories where I was scolded for doing this or that because I didn't follow the rules that they learned whoever raised them. I didn't like to feel shame as a kid, so now as an adult, I find myself sometimes going into self-defense mode.

I technically could just not take anything people say personally and just let it go, but sometimes I notice myself ruminating in that "how dare they say that" attitude even though logically there's a part of me that knows they were just sharing their view of the world - which has little to do with me.

So what do I anticipate will be different once I work with these triggered parts of myself? I imagine I'll be able to recognize - "oh - you're being judgmental right now", and then I could make my next decision from there. Perhaps I'll just speak what's true for me or give a nod and end the conversation. It's like being able to respond instead of react.

I wonder how it would be for you if you tried this?

Ready To Try It?

Next time you're in a situation where you feel emotionally triggered by someone or something, ask yourself the questions above! And if you want to take it deeper, work with the various emotional responses at the subconscious level. The Core Transformation process can be fantastic for this - reach out if you'd like to experience a session.

That's it! Have questions about this week's tip? Want to share something with me? Connect with me!

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Cheers to your success!

-Alina Nikishina

Transformational Coach & Mentor

P.S. What's one way that this "superposition" concept has applied in your life? What two (or more) opposing emotional states or perspectives have you been able to hold at once that has made a positive difference for you?

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